Self-care for carers

Some people can seem to have an enhanced ability to cope with challenges and flexibly manage the difficulties that the eating disorder brings. They seem to ‘bounce back’ more easily. Often, this is about resilience and regular attention to self- care.

Harriet Parsons : advice to carers on self care Part 1


Harriet Parsons: advice to carers on self-care Part 2

The STEADY Framework

Our STEADY framework for carers is an easy way of remembering and planning the core elements of good self-care when caring for someone you love who has an eating disorder.

o   Sleep

Adequate sleep is associated with better emotional and physical health. See our Sleep Matters section for tips on improving your sleep quality if you feel it is poor.

o   Team support

Being a carer is not sustainable without accepting help from family and friends and asking for it when you need it.

o   Eat well

With so much focus on eating when caring for someone with an eating disorder, carers can forget their own nutrition. Regular, nourishing, balanced meals will sustain both your mind and body.

o   Active

Plan time for your own exercise, to go for a walk or another activity. Regular exercise, once medically safe, is of major benefit to both mental and physical health.

o   Discuss

"A problem shared is a problem halved" as they say. It’s important to find a friend or family member to confide and share your worries and concerns. It will help you bounce back. 

o   You

Eating disorders have a way of taking over family life, so make sure that you allow for a little time in the week as Your space: the hobbies and interests you are passionate about. They will replenish you.

To develop your resilience further